Oprah, Mother to the World

Another day bedridden, another day picking some low-hanging fruit. This article, linked on Reddit, describes Oprah's long-term relationship of 30 years with Stedman Graham, and why she has neither gotten married nor born children.

Let's start off here:

“When people were pressuring me to get married and have children, I knew I was not going to be a person that ever regretted having them, because I feel like I am a mother to the world’s children,” Winfrey told Good Housekeeping UK in early 2017.

These are the kinds of attitudes that we in dissident right accuse liberals of having, but no one outside of our own little circle gives it much credit. And why should they? Anyone can offer a nonsense psychoanalysis and make it sound plausible. They do it all the time. Look at their "analyses" of Trump, who, despite how he affects their feelings, keeps beating them over and over in the real world. We believe our particular psychoanalyses are supported by evidence, and here we have the queen bee of the left stating it clearly in plain English. What else is there to argue about?

This kind of attitude, outside of being rich with narcissism and grandeur, is very dangerous, and I would say it's the opposite of our core fundamental principle. The core principle of the left is equality (described in increasingly unrealistic definitions), which they have made into an ideology. The core principle of the right is - and I don't know the proper term for this - solving problems at the lowest level. Conservatives are federalists. They are states-rights activists. They are, largely, skeptical of the federal government. They like to solve problems at the lowest level...at the family level, if possible.

Oprah's statement is the complete opposite. She wants to solve problems at the highest possible level. You can't go any higher than "mother to the world." That's the problem with ideology, it seeks a monolithic top-level control structure. Such things aren't natural in the real world. In software development, the major activity is to abstract out the problem space and find the best level to solve a given problem. Software written monolithically is destined for catastrophe. (Witness the Toyota embedded braking software, or the Obamacare rollout website for examples.) The only way this kind of software can compete on the market is to be a monopoly. Which explains the left's deep desire to disarm the right and suppress them in public discourse in any way possible. Their proposed ideologies can't survive in the face of robust competition.

Much of the article is dedicated to rationalizing why the long-term intimate relationship never transitioned into a family. If we listen to the text of the article, it was largely a matter of circumstance. Her partner even proposed to her, but with the timing of her busy career, it just never panned out. But, as they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. This article contains two pictures of the couple, and much less than a thousand words.

You don't have to be a body-language expert for this. Here we have two different shots, which appear to have been taken on the same day. In both photos Mr. Graham is leaned into Miss Winfrey, while she is leaned out. In both photos her body is pointed towards the camera, while he is turned towards her. And finally, the caption shows she refers to him as HoneyGraham. (Luckily my current illness does not include nausea.)

His body language makes him the lesser of the two. And woman do not like to marry their lessers. It's why things can actually be quite difficult for women who rise to the top of the pack. Men don't necessarily date up or down. They're looking for a hot young thing, hopefully one that won't drive them mad. Women want to date up, so that tends to set the dynamic. Oprah doesn't want to marry Graham because she doesn't properly respect him, but she doesn't want to dedicate time to try dating again, plus she must have some inclination as to how that would work out for her.

Imagine the postures of these images were reversed: if he was standing upright (or slightly distanced) and she was leaned and oriented towards him. Do you think she would have rebuked his proposal? I doubt it. She may have even born him children. Then her maternal instincts would be directed more naturally towards her children, rather than at "the world." A lot of people on the alt-right think feminization is destroying the west. The voting habits of unattached women and soy boys would sure seem to corroborate that suspicion. On the other hand, her we see the exemplar of liberalism, the queen bee of the mainstream left, and she's only been able to live life on "her terms" because there exists a man who is happy to let her, and takes whatever deal she gives him.